Volunteers seeking to aid some of the three million refugees coming across the border from Ukraine will experience anguish themselves, said a Trauma Therapy counselor to The Epoch Times on March 15.
“It’s essential that volunteers who have little or no experience dealing with traumatized adults and children get ready for what they are about to see,” said Dr. MaryDale Salston, who has worked for years in Post Traumatic Stress counseling.
“Volunteers will be traumatized too, and definitely impacted by the brutality of the stories they hear. They need to be prepared to manage their responses and remain calm, to be effective.”
Salston has worked as a Trauma Counselor during the San Francisco earthquake of 1989, the Oklahoma City bombing of 1995, and with hurricane disasters in Florida where people’s homes were destroyed.
She also led groups of patients who were survivors of violent crimes, and those who’ve had family members murdered.
There are some simple steps non-professionals can take to be more effective, said Salston.
“Step one is that volunteers should not forget to breathe slowly, deeply, in and out. Remain calm. Don’t react to what you see with jaw-dropping or eyes-rolling.
“People facing life and death stress situations stop breathing normally. They clench down and breathing becomes shallow or they just hold their breath. Volunteers will experience that as well as they … encounter … shaken people and children.”
There are “identifiers” that volunteers staying extended periods will see.
“Acute trauma is the duration of symptoms for less than three months. Chronic trauma symptoms last longer than three months.
“Thirdly, there are delayed-onset symptoms where at least six months have passed since people experienced the trauma and onset of symptoms.”
Some refugees will cope with persistent avoidance, experiencing a restricted range of emotions.
“They will not be able to be as loving, thoughtful, or concerned for others as they were. There are people who formerly could laugh easily and all that shuts down. They were able to have empathy for somebody but can’t any longer.”
People experiencing life-and-death situations can lead to what is called “hyper-vigilance.”
“That’s where people are on guard all the time, because of the traumas they’ve experienced,” Salston said.
“Coupled with that can be the Exaggerated Startle Response. Simple sounds—like a book dropping or a car backfiring—cause people to be startled, a symptom not present before the trauma.”
Not all responses to traumatic stress are negative, she said.
“I once did a survey of individuals asking how trauma impacted their daily lives. I was surprised to find in every case, the narrative was how they had been impacted in a positive way.
“Responses such as ‘my family has been there for me’, ‘I have developed better relationships with friends who have gone through this,’ or “My relationship with God is stronger.’”
Volunteers should not be overwhelmed by the sheer numbers.
“I always have hope that if a volunteer is reaching out, even to just a few people, that this will eventually have a positive impact on a larger number.
“A colleague and I led a homicide survivors’ group of 30 and they ended up doing all the work. We may have led the topic, but they were the ones helping each other.
“When they read of a homicide in the paper, they would write a letter to the survivors and say, ‘You should come to this group. It’s going to help you.’ They helped each other a great deal.
“If the volunteers to Ukraine can promote that—helping each other rather than a professional doing it all—that would have a powerful impact.”
Prayer is important, she added.
“We need to pray for volunteers for guidance and good leadership. That’s what we can do for them here as they are going over there.”